Need Respect?

There comes a time in our life when we need to say, “I have no one to blame.”  If you are like me that time may have come later than you hoped, because it is a very health time of awareness.  Many go through life blaming their parents, an employer, spouse(s), friends, and for some…even their kids for not being the man or woman they dreamed of being.  Sure, all of the aforementioned do influence the projections of our life, but other than our parents we made the decision to enter into the relationships.  As I will say again later in this blog post, where you and I are in the world today is a result of the decisions we have made, the relationships we have made, and more importantly…how we have chosen to project ourselves to the world around us.  We have all been told that life is not about us, but the quality of our life will be determined by how we choose to project ourselves to others.

Do you remember the great Rodney Dangerfield?  He was a comedian whose entire shtick was based on the fact he got no respect.  He was the king of self-deprecating humor.  One of his lines was, “I went to my psychiatrist and he said I was crazy; so I told him I wanted a second opinion.  He said okay, you’re ugly too.”  As a child I loved him!  And being one of the fat and under achieving kids in the class I realized I could use that same self-deprecation to get laughs.  And even as I got thinner and better looking on the outside…I felt the same on the inside.  So I continued with my Rodney Dangerfield shtick.

The problem with my decision to project myself as the guy who always screws things up, isn’t very bright, or simply gets “no respect” is that it became a self-fulfilling prophecy.  People laugh at the jokes, but there is a part of them that begins to believe what you are saying even if or when there comes a day you don’t.  There comes a time in most of our lives when we want to be taken seriously.  If we are growing in maturity and getting healthier then we begin to realize we have something to offer the world.  We quit blaming everyone else, get our head out of our ass, and then we want our parents, friends, spouse, and everyone else to know we are not who we have led them believe.  We no longer want to be the punch line or a punching bag.  We no longer want to be told what to do, who to be, or where to go.  However, in order for us to change theirperceptions we must first change our projections.  We have to change what we are projecting to the world around us or they will continue to feel the need to put us in our place.  After all, through our words and behavior we have told them we need that in our life!  We have projected a persona that says we aren’t capable!  It may be that we’ve led others to believe we aren’t capable of managing our own affairs, leading, getting a job done, or making our own decisions.  Most people don’t just assume you or I are incapable…we have lead them to believe it.

Let me ask you a few questions to help you see if this “mighty blog” can help you today.

  • Who are you in your heart?
  • Do you believe you can do more with you life if others would give you the chance?
  • Do you wonder why others don’t take you seriously or don’t see your gifts and talents?
  • Do you often times feel overlooked or disregarded?
  • Do you wonder why others think they have the right to boss you around, treat you like a child, manipulate you, or literally speak down to you?

Focus on that first question for a moment, because it is the place to start.  You first must realize that you were put on this earth with gifts and talents.  You must understand that you can achieve the things you have dreamed of achieving.  Because if you don’t believe it then you sure as hell aren’t going to convince others.  The other questions will help you determine what message you are sending to the world around you.  Simply put, you and I have to demand respect if we want it from others.  Yes small doses of self-deprecating humor and true humility are important for success, but they shouldn’t be your shtick unless you are a comedian, entertainer, or just enjoy it!

Again, if you and I want respect then we will have to demand it.  However, we don’t demand it by directly asking for it or being rude to others…we ask for it through how we project ourselves to the world.  It is time to introduce everyone to the real you so move out of your heart, into your brain, and out into the world!

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Crown of Clowns for August 31, 2015

Alex Gomez was visiting a family ranch when he looked down on the ground and saw a  four-foot rattlesnake, and what he did next is what launched him into Crown of Clowns fame! Alex picked up the rattle snake and put it around his NECK so he could snap a selfie. I know this will surprise you, but this didn’t go well.
The Snake bit him on the hand and he was rushed to a hospital where he was pumped full of anti-venom. Unfortunately, he will lose his hand. He's not getting much sympathy from anyone at this point . . . and that includes his MOTHER.
When she told him the local news wanted to interview her, he asked her to say no . . . but she told him she was DEFINITELY doing it, because he's a "fool.”
My Points:
Alex, First of all, someone should give you a hand. No really, someone should give you a hand. They can do that now you know.
Alex, I don’t mean to pile on here…but if your own mother says you’re and idiot. You have to own it.
Lastly, Alex, you obviously need some help on what makes a great self. May I suggest you go to Ellen Tailors Instagram where you will find about 345,000 duck lips BUT NO…I REPEAT NO SNAKES.
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Yeah, That's Not a Dolphin

Seems like this has been the Summer of the Shark.

Another shark attack to report - no one hurt, so no worries there.

A woman was surfing in Morro Bay, north of Santa Barbara in California, when she looked into the water under her board and spotted a gray shadow.

She thought it was a dolphin - until it started coming at her.

Turns out it was a six-foot Great White, and it took a pretty good-sized chunk out of her board as she swam away.

Watch the story from a local news affiliate. 

I'm pretty sure I'd take that as a sign to stay out of the water for a while. And by "for a while," I mean "forever."

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Bitch Slap at the VMA Corral

You never know what you're going to get when Nicki Minaj and Miley Cyrus are in the same room.

What you got last night at the VMAs was fireworks!

Nicki was on stage, accepting her award for "Anaconda" as Best Hip Hop Video.

She thanked everyone who made it possible, the way you do at awards shows.

And then she laid into Miley Cyrus, who had some particulary unflattering things to say about Nicki in a previous interview.

Miley's response was pretty much "that's the way it goes in this industry."

And that just made Nicki madder.

Watch the video...

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Yup, Almost Naked

Miley Cyrus told a guy on the street during a fake interview on Jimmy Kimmel Live! last week that she would be hosting MTV's Video Music Awards in the nude.

And judging from the stuff done leading up to the show itself, it looks like she came pretty close to making that promise a reality.

I don't know. Maybe it's just bad luck they scheduled the VMA's on Miley's laundry day?
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President Kanye?

Oh yes he did.

At the VMA's last night, Kanye West announced - after a four-hour speech (okay, maybe it wasn't that long, but it sure felt like it was!) - that he was running for president in 2020.

Sadly, he means President of the United States.

He dropped the mic right after saying that and walked off stage to a cheering crowd.

It's not clear whether they were cheering the announcement, or the fact that he was finally done talking.

I'm thinking the latter...

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"I Wanna Be Trump's Running Mate"

The folks at TMZ Sports caught up with currently-disgraced former WWE champion Hulk Hogan on the streets of New York and asked him a very important question.

Who among the list of presidential possibilities would he like to face inside a wrestling ring?

Hulk flipped that question over and answered one of his own.

He wants to be Donald Trump's running mate.

It's not clear if he was serious or just goofing around. Which so far has been the tone of a lot of presidential campaigns, so the Hulkster could fit right in.

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OMG! You 2?

So, Amber Rose and Blac Chyna showed up at MTV's Video Music Awards last night wearing the same outfit.

I mean, seriously, they couldn't have checked in with each other?

Okay, turn out, they did. This was a coordinated effort.

Same material, different dresses, both sporting words and phrases that people - Amber and Blac would call them "haters" - have used when describing them.

"Whore," "Stripper," "Bitch," "Gold Digger" - things like that.

Some are calling it a blow for feminism.

Others are thinking they were mugged by a graffiti artist.

What do you think?
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Got Milk?

Just when you think you've seen it all, Kim Kardashian hits you over the head.

This time, she posted a picture to the Internet of her boobs - no worries, they're covered by a bikini.

It's the picture's caption that has everyone buzzing.

Two baby bottle emojis.

Okay, Kim, I think we get it.
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Trainwreck, Live!

You're already having a blast at Billy Joel's concert at Wrigley Field in Chicago.

Imagine how much more fun it would be if Jennifer Lawrence and Amy Schumer jumped onto Billy's piano and started dancing?

That's exactly what happened Thursday night.

They danced to "Uptown Girl," something that Amy did at the end of Trainwreck, dancing with the New York Knicks cheerleaders.

One of these days, I'll get around to seeing that movie.

Meanwhile, I've got this.

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