There comes a time in our life when we need to say, “I have no one to blame.” If you are like me that time may have come later than you hoped, because it is a very health time of awareness. Many go through life blaming their parents, an employer, spouse(s), friends, and for some…even their kids for not being the man or woman they dreamed of being. Sure, all of the aforementioned do influence the projections of our life, but other than our parents we made the decision to enter into the relationships. As I will say again later in this blog post, where you and I are in the world today is a result of the decisions we have made, the relationships we have made, and more importantly…how we have chosen to project ourselves to the world around us. We have all been told that life is not about us, but the quality of our life will be determined by how we choose to project ourselves to others.
Do you remember the great Rodney Dangerfield? He was a comedian whose entire shtick was based on the fact he got no respect. He was the king of self-deprecating humor. One of his lines was, “I went to my psychiatrist and he said I was crazy; so I told him I wanted a second opinion. He said okay, you’re ugly too.” As a child I loved him! And being one of the fat and under achieving kids in the class I realized I could use that same self-deprecation to get laughs. And even as I got thinner and better looking on the outside…I felt the same on the inside. So I continued with my Rodney Dangerfield shtick.
The problem with my decision to project myself as the guy who always screws things up, isn’t very bright, or simply gets “no respect” is that it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. People laugh at the jokes, but there is a part of them that begins to believe what you are saying even if or when there comes a day you don’t. There comes a time in most of our lives when we want to be taken seriously. If we are growing in maturity and getting healthier then we begin to realize we have something to offer the world. We quit blaming everyone else, get our head out of our ass, and then we want our parents, friends, spouse, and everyone else to know we are not who we have led them believe. We no longer want to be the punch line or a punching bag. We no longer want to be told what to do, who to be, or where to go. However, in order for us to change theirperceptions we must first change our projections. We have to change what we are projecting to the world around us or they will continue to feel the need to put us in our place. After all, through our words and behavior we have told them we need that in our life! We have projected a persona that says we aren’t capable! It may be that we’ve led others to believe we aren’t capable of managing our own affairs, leading, getting a job done, or making our own decisions. Most people don’t just assume you or I are incapable…we have lead them to believe it.
Let me ask you a few questions to help you see if this “mighty blog” can help you today.
Who are you in your heart?
Do you believe you can do more with you life if others would give you the chance?
Do you wonder why others don’t take you seriously or don’t see your gifts and talents?
Do you often times feel overlooked or disregarded?
Do you wonder why others think they have the right to boss you around, treat you like a child, manipulate you, or literally speak down to you?
Focus on that first question for a moment, because it is the place to start. You first must realize that you were put on this earth with gifts and talents. You must understand that you can achieve the things you have dreamed of achieving. Because if you don’t believe it then you sure as hell aren’t going to convince others. The other questions will help you determine what message you are sending to the world around you. Simply put, you and I have to demand respect if we want it from others. Yes small doses of self-deprecating humor and true humility are important for success, but they shouldn’t be your shtick unless you are a comedian, entertainer, or just enjoy it!
Again, if you and I want respect then we will have to demand it. However, we don’t demand it by directly asking for it or being rude to others…we ask for it through how we project ourselves to the world. It is time to introduce everyone to the real you so move out of your heart, into your brain, and out into the world!
Alex Gomez was visiting a family ranch when he looked down on the ground and saw a four-foot rattlesnake, and what he did next is what launched him into Crown of Clowns fame! Alex picked up the rattle snake and put it around his NECK so he could snap a selfie. I know this will surprise you, but this didn’t go well.
The Snake bit him on the hand and he was rushed to a hospital where he was pumped full of anti-venom. Unfortunately, he will lose his hand. He's not getting much sympathy from anyone at this point . . . and that includes his MOTHER.
When she told him the local news wanted to interview her, he asked her to say no . . . but she told him she was DEFINITELY doing it, because he's a "fool.”
Alex, First of all, someone should give you a hand. No really, someone should give you a hand. They can do that now you know.
Alex, I don’t mean to pile on here…but if your own mother says you’re and idiot. You have to own it.
Lastly, Alex, you obviously need some help on what makes a great self. May I suggest you go to Ellen Tailors Instagram where you will find about 345,000 duck lips BUT NO…I REPEAT NO SNAKES.
Today’s Crown of Clowns goes to none other than Josh Duggar who just got busted for using Ashley Madison.com to have an affair. This occurring only a few months after he admitted to abusing his younger sisters when he was a teenager.
Here is what Josh Duggar said this week: "I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife." He goes on to express shame and apologized to his fans about his "double life” and re-breaking their trust.
His parents also released a statement saying, we "continue to place our trust in God [and] ask for your prayers for Josh, Anna, our grandchildren and our entire family."
1-Josh, you finally said something I agree with…you are a hypocrite.
2-Josh, your parents need to step into the big top, because they are clowns as well! And I’m glad you pray, but now get off your knees and remember…God helps those who help themselves. He has done HIS part…now do yours.
3-Lastly, the funny thing about your statement is when you use the word, “fans.” Dude, You don’t have fans. Channing Tatum has fans --- Luke Bryan has fans --- you have voyeurs’.
And they love waiting on a train wreck…congratulations you’ve delivered.
It’s Group Therapy time! We appreciate the good advice you share with your fellow Rock-A-Holics, so keep up the good work! Let’s see who we’re helping today…
Ray is happily married with a great wife. He also has a platonic female friend who suffers from depression, and he tries to be there for her when she needs him. Ray and his female friend meet for coffee, and he lets her take the time to share her problems; they also take walks from time to time. During these walks, they occasionally hold hands.
Well, that sets off an alarm in my head. I take a lot of grief for my strong stand against male-female friendships when at least one of the people is in a relationship with someone else. HOLDING HANDS, Ray?! Seriously?
Ray’s wife knows about the friendship, but she doesn’t know how close they are, or about the depression. Ray says he’s worried about his friend, and he fears that pulling back from their established friendship could send her into a spiral. He wonders if he should explain everything about this friendship to his wife.
I’m throwing my hands up in the air on this one. Men and women should NOT be hanging out if they’re not intimately involved, and I’m not changing my stance on that anytime soon (read: ever.) Why would you take on this woman’s problems? Let her find a man of her own, and you can focus on your marriage. This is trouble waiting to happen, and that’s my last word on the subject.
I don’t care about this situation, and it’s making me irritated to keep dwelling on it. Let’s hear it from you, good people…what do you think Ray should do about this weird little triangle he’s built for himself?
Today’s Crown of Clowns goes to Everett Lages! Everet is an interesting fella, because he likes to walk around holding his cat. And last week he was very upset when the Emerald City Gentlemen’s Club in Murdock, Florida wouldn’t let him bring it in! Now, he was able to get the kitty inside the club briefly, but after the cat hissed and showed his claws…he was asked to leave. So Everett called 9-1-1 to complain. He ended up arrested.
Everett … do you know why…why you are so lonely that you have to go to strip clubs to see women? BECAUSE YOU CARRY AROUND A CAT! What part of that isn’t creepy to you?
Everett … Everyone knows you can’t take a pussycat into a pussycat club, but I can see why you are HISSED OFF!
Lastly … Even our producer Randy is more manly than you…sure he carries around a miniature poodle…but at least it isn’t a cat.
“By not saving & managing your money in your youth…you greatly increase the likelihood that you will one day feel enslaved to a job. People will tell you that money doesn’t make you happy, and that’s because they are broke. Money will offer you freedom, which can lead to both peace and happiness. Make it-Share it-Save it”
Being on the radio for almost 20 years has taught me that you can’t make a statement everyone will agree with, and so I was not shocked that a few (very few) disagreed. However, I am a little shocked that someone would disagree. Does that make sense? Sure, I know that not everyone will realize I’m like a Caucasian Buddha, but not sure how anyone can deny the importance of money here in America. Regardless, I want to clarify my statement to help people understand the brilliance that flowed so easily from my tortured mind.
Note that I didn’t say money can take care of all of our problems, and that it is the source of happiness. I said it can make life easier for you. When life is easier it can thus bring more peace and happiness to most situations. For example, one of my dear friends replied with the following statement to my post:
I agree with you Tony. Always been a “save for rainy day” fund gal. In my 20s..when we were making very good money-we both socked 16 percent into 401ks…bought a modest home. 15 year mortgage ( house now paid off and I am only 43 ). Being responsible then when we were making big bucks saved me a world of grief later.
You will notice the phrase, “Saved me a world of grief later.” What you don’t know is my good friend lost her husband to cancer at a very young age, and was left to raise 3 children. Did the money take away the grief. No. Did she ever think the money would replace the loss of the love of her life? No. However, did it reduce the stress in her life greatly? Absolutely. Let me give you an example on the other side of the spectrum. My parents are now almost 80 years of age, and despite having Medicaid and an AARP health policy their medications cost them over $500 a month. If my parents had not saved money then they would be having even more struggles Life is still difficult for them, but at least one stressor has been removed due to a few extra “Benjamins” in the bank.
Money shouldn’t be worshiped, and allowed to control us, but you sure as hell better learn to respect it and know the value of it. I’m not speaking from a place of expertise, but I am speaking from experience. I’ve made and continue to make great money, but because I wasn’t wise throughout the years it has tripled the amount of stress I have in my life. I simply didn’t listen to my father who told me to save my money. Now, please know I’m blessed beyond my dreams with most of the important things in life so don’t miss my point about money. My post is simply a way of advising younger folks to not just live for today. Sure, enjoy today and spend some of your money on things that will bring joy into your life…just don’t spend all of it!
A few others insinuated that my Facebook post showed that I’m a broken man and in need of turning things over to God. I would like to say that we are all broken, and you know what is worse than being broken? Being broken and broke at the same time! I fully believe that a belief in a high power will bring an incredible amount of peace during difficult times. However, God doesn’t even carry a wallet, which makes it very difficult for Him to pay my rent.
A 33-year-old man we’ll call Jeremy just tried to pull off his very first bank robbery. And to say he failed miserably would be an understatement. There are a couple of things Jeremy did wrong in his attempt. First, he didn’t wear a mask or even a hat. So he had no disguise. Secondly, Jeremy didn’t take a gun…instead he took A drawing of a gun. Seriously, he drew a picture of a gun and handed it to the bank teller and told her it was a robbery. She then asked him to go to the back of the line while she got all the money together. So he did just that, and while he was in the back of the line the teller called the police. Jeremy went to jail.
1-While in jail you have got to learn to do something…anything, because you are not good at being bad. You are honestly too dumb to be a crook.
2-There is one job you may be able to handle, think about becoming a program director of a radio station.
3-Jeremy, the bank robber’s handbook says, “Draw your gun” not “Draw A Gun!” What were you threatening them with…a paper cut???
During the Toronto Open Nick Kyrgios told his opponent Stanislas Wawrinka that his girlfriend cheated on him with another tennis player. After he heard that news, his whole game was thrown off for the remainder of the match. Following the match Wawrinka had blasted Kyrgios on Twitter. It just seemed to be really rude to do that during the tennis match and for a fellow tennis player. Kyrgios later apologized for the comment. For more on the story click HERE
Mary Castro couldn’t take it anymore…her little 5 year-old boy was driving her nuts, and would not behave so she…you won’t believe this…but she tied him to a tree in the front yard. Yes right there in the front yard he was tied to a tree and not just for five minutes, but for 45 minutes. She was arrested for child endangerment.
Mommy Mary, from one parent to another let me help you, if your son is misbehaving you don’t punish them…you simply buy them an xbox, playstation, or Wii and set them in front of a TV for 12 hours a day like the rest of us do. Sure they are zombies, but what’s better than being raised by Grand Theft Auto?
Mary, I don’t want to be mean, but it sounds like you need some guidance. But the good new is…when your kids become teenagers they will be able to tell you what to do, because they will know everything!
Lastly, Mary, sweet heart, if anyone understands what you are going through it is me. I have five crazy kids, but listen to me…you never ever…ever tie them to a tree in the front yard. The backyard maybe, but never the front where everyone can see.
Cat Thomas got pulled over in Florida because her tags were expired, but that was the least of her problems. When the officer walked up to her car he quickly noticed her young son bouncing around in backseat with no seatbelt on. And when she put down her window, she smelled like booze and oh yeah...she was driving while breastfeeding her baby. So the officer gave her a field sobriety test and she failed, but she said she had a good reason for that. She had just eaten a couple of burgers that had been marinated in whiskey. She was arrested.
Cat, let’s run down the list of violations here: You were drunk…drunk of whisky marinated burgers, You were letting one kid jump around in the back seat like he was a bounce house, & you had another kid latched on your super sucker. Wow…I hate to say it but that is impressive…despicable but impressive.
I know I’m not one to judge, but have you thought about not having more children, because it sounds like you have your hands full. Literally, you had your hands full! When the law says no drinking and driving, that also goes for your baby. He doesn’t need to be drinking from the "boob tap of life" while YOU are driving.
I have to be honest, I have got to have one of those burgers!!!